Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Three Wives, One Husband: A Refreshing - And Real - Look at Polygamy

Three Wives, One Husband is a documentary-style mini series on TLC. While it's similar to TLC's other polygamy shows, I liked its documentary style, which is different than TLC's typically overly dramatic style. (This wasn't originally filmed for TLC, which explains that.) But anyway, what I liked about this show is how real it is. It doesn't paint a rosy, picture perfect view of polygamy; it shows a tough lifestyle that isn't exactly easy.

First and foremost, the show portrays people who are sometimes happy, but struggle with their lifestyle. Marina, the third wife of Abel Morrison, clearly struggles with jealousy, which takes a huge toll on her husband and sister wives.

A fascinating family on the show was Christian and Sasha, a currently monogamous couple who are seeking a sister wife. They have one son, but Sasha had multiple miscarriages, and situations like this could limit the number of kids they can have. This seems to play a big role in why she's willing to accept a sister wife. That being said, she clearly struggles with the idea, and turns to her religion to justify why should do something she doesn't seem to want to do. When she talked to some of the polygamist families about her concerns, they too backed their decision and justification with religion: their human selves want to be competitive, but their religious selves know not to, so they try to follow that. So, accept a sister wife, don't be jealous, and love her for who she is. And that's great, in theory, but real life is not that simple.

Also interesting was the case of Anazella and Melinda, widows of Jim Morrison. Jim's dying wish was for his wives to marry his brother, Abel, so they'd be taken care of. And according to his wives, if Abel had kids with any of them, they'd be the same as Jim's kids because Jim and Abel share DNA. While I can understand and respect polygamy, this is a bit much for me - and Jim's wives seemed to agree, as they decided not to pursue this option. Seriously though, that's a bit much, isn't it? Yeah, it would keep the kids together but can you really just stick two families together and expect it to work?

Do I think the women that appear on Three Wives, One Husband are brainwashed or oppressed? No. I think they are free-thinking and free to leave their lifestyle at any time. I think like anything else, their belief system dictates that they do things that they may not otherwise do, but that's their choice. Are there terrible polygamist communities out there? Absolutely. But I don't think this is one of them.

What do you think of the show and the families?

Monday, February 26, 2018

Seeking Sister Wife: A Lot Has Changed Since Episode One!

I caught up on Seeking Sister Wife, and wow, a lot has changed since episode one.

First and foremost, I went from being a fan of the Snowdens to not being so sure. Did you know Ashley and Dimitri aren't actually married so all wives can have equal footing? And how about Dimitri sleeping with Joselyn on the first date? It's looking very interesting. That being said, does anyone else think maybe things aren't what they seem?

First of all, rumors are flying that Ashley and Dimitri are looking for a lover for both of them, not just Dimitri - which is totally fine - but not traditional polygamy. Second, did you know Dimitri's had legal trouble? He swindled money from a charter school.

Secondly, I'm not 100% convinced that Dimitri and Joselyn did sleep together. I feel as if this could have been manufactured for TV, the same way the Melina storyline with the Alldredges feels staged. (Which, by the way, I am loving the Alldredges - either they put on a great show or they're just awesome people who make an amazing family.)

As far as the Briney family, people seem to be pretty divided on which wife they like - or dislike - most. I want to give everyone an equal chance, but April's not coming off so great on camera. I feel like April's forgotten when it's like to have a newborn - she criticizes Angela for taking too much time with her baby son. Well, Angela admitted she does try to escape because of the tension, but babies take a lot of work! And the way April derailed Auralee's heartfelt moment on the camping trip didn't come off looking great. I do think April is being manipulative, and I wonder if this show has shown her how her actions affect others.

I feel for Melina, and I look forward to seeing where her storyline goes. I'm excited for more episodes!

Monday, January 29, 2018

Seeking Sister Wife: Thoughts So Far and the Person Who Drives Me Nuts!

I am truly enjoying Seeking Sister Wife so far. While it's definitely scripted in some ways (or at least predetermined), parts seem genuine, like the tension in the Briney household. And that's my favorite part, even though it's awful.

What I mean is this: April is wife number one. And unless she's an amazing on screen actress (she's an actress in the household with her manipulative behavior), that woman will not let her sister wives forget that she was there first, she's number one and nobody is coming before her.

Take this week for example. I believe Wife #2, Auralee (who I think is awesome) truly did need mattresses for her kids and April tried to find a way to get her kids new ones instead. Then she tried to convince Auralee that she was making it up, and April was trying to help. Third wife Angela backed up Auralee's story. I think Auralee has seen this behavior from April for years but kept quiet until the show because she could finally say something and people would believe her. I'm on team Auralee!

That being said, I don't want this to be completely negative because it could do be for the cameras. And I also would hate to think I'm misjudging April, and she's reading posts like these and getting upset. Hopefully we see her behavior turn around during the show and we can join Team April as well.

Oh yeah, I do like how all three Briney wives have A names, but the husband's shiny shirts are bugging me out a bit.

As far as the other two families, I like everybody so far. I think they have things worked out pretty fairly, and if they're happy, this is awesome for them. Like I always say, live your life morally and ethically, and you deserve to do what makes you happy.