Friday, February 27, 2015

Sex Box: Series Premiere on WeTV

Sex Box premiered on WeTV tonight. This show takes three couples in trouble and has each couple have sex in a box, then have their relationship analyzed by experts. The goal is to save the marriage.

The experts are Fran Walfish, a relationship therapist, sex therapist Dr. Chris Donaghue and pastor Dr. Yvonne Capehart.

The first couple, Elle and Brandon, are still relatively newlywed. They work a lot, and Elle doesn't typically "finish" when the couple has sex. Brandon said he wants Elle to have orgasms more, but Dr. Donaghue didn't seem convinced. The panel noticed that Brandon uses jokes to avoid tough issues, and Elle was asked why she stays in a relationship of deprivation - and she said because other things work well for the couple. Elle was given the task of speaking her mind.

Brandon and Elle went into the sex box, where Brandon committed to work towards Elle's satisfaction. They were told to choose intimate apparel to wear before entering the box.

After some quick time had passed (less than the actual 17 minutes), the couple stepped out in silly, shiny pajamas. They had to write down how well they think they did. Brandon said he got an 8.8 when it comes to pleasing Elle. Elle rated the same at a 7.9. The panel was happy! And Brandon and Elle also looked happy. Elle even had the first orgasm. The therapists were happy with the quick improvement and seemed positive about the couple.

Couple two was Rebecca and Dyson. This couple had experimented sexually in many ways (threesomes and more), but Dyson kept pushing things further. The couple has young kids, leading Rebecca to be hesitant with sexual risks, and Rebecca fears that their relationship may not grow.

Dyson wants to date other people with his wife. Rebecca said she'd be okay with another woman in the house if not for their kids. Dyson said that after five years, relationships get stale and things are lacking, so he wants things to be exciting. The therapists were appalled, as Dyson and Rebecca have been together for seventeen years. Rebecca was clearly upset by things Dyson said but still defended him.

Random interruption - time for a crude joke. Dyson's like a vacuum. He wants to suck everything up. Get it - like Dyson brand vacuums? Bad, I know.

The couple went into the sex box. Their instructions were to get back to basics and focus on each other. They spent almost 27 minutes in the box. Rebecca said Dyson was attentive and sweet. Dyson says he normally doesn't do that and should do it more. Rebecca still maintained that she'd be okay with another woman in their relationship, but the therapists said her body language looked like Rebecca was trying to convince herself. Finally, Rebecca admitted that she was afraid to lose her place in her family. A therapist asked if they can agree not to bring in a third party, and Dyson said he can't guarantee that because it's a fantasy he'll always have. But he can agree to take it off the table for now. Dyson seemed to really understand Rebecca's needs at this time.

Alexia and Christopher were third. They had a good sex life until something stopped their intimacy in its tracks. Alexia, who used to initiate sex, is no longer interested. Christopher likes to take videos of the couple's intimacy. Alexia was most interested in sex while pregnant. In fact, while Alexia was having contractions while getting ready to birth her child, she called Christopher over to give him oral sex. Wow. Just wow. Now their sex life is much less frequent, post-child. Plus, Alexia doesn't associate her breasts with sex now that they're used for her son. Alexia feels as if she'd be more interested in lovemaking, not 'sex', and Christopher wants Alexia to realize she can be a mom and enjoy sex. They were tasked with finding a way of having sex that works for both of them. They lasted 31 minutes in the sex box.

Chris focused on being more loving in the sex box, and that allowed Alexia to fulfill both sides of herself - her sexual side and her maternal side. Alexia then dropped the story of her childhood - her mom had her at 14 and chose not to raise her, and Alexia wouldn't want to do that to her child. Therefore, she wants to make sure her son is cared for properly. She was told to turn to Christopher and tell him what kind of father she wants him to be. She told Christopher she needs him to be there with her and her son. Christopher assured Alexia he isn't going anywhere.

My final thoughts and review:

The show basically forces couples to talk. While sex in the box is the focus of the show, the real importance of the show is that the couples are assisted by professionals who can make their relationships more successful. The sex really just makes couples more able to talk about their personal issues.

Is this show entertaining? Sure. Is it crazy/amazing/revolutionary like the previews wanted us to believe? Absolutely not. I did enjoy hearing about the problems between Dyson and Rebecca. And there's a lot of takeaways that can be learned on this show - listen to your partner. Voice your concerns. Understand that there can be different sides of you. Apparently, this experience works because we were told that the couples are all doing well. Christopher and Alexia are actually expecting another baby. Congratulations!

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