Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Catfish - Jesse and Brian - A Whole Lot of WTF

I just finished watching tonight's episode of MTV's Catfish (8/20/13) with Jesse and Brian, and I'm left feeling somewhat less than fulfilled.

The show brought us Jesse, a blonde from Pennsylvania who wanted to meet Brian, a guy her friend Fran knew from being in the Armed Forces together. The whole scenario seemed sketchy - Brian had some arrest records that he never mentioned, he was divorced and didn't tell Jesse and his name isn't even really his name...although Catfish didn't really explain that part.

While we knew something was weird with the Brian situation, we didn't really know what. My first theory was that Fran was actually Brian in disguise, but I was definitely off on that one!

When Nev and Max took Jesse to meet Brian, they seemed pretty nervous. After all, past signs pointed to sketchiness - Brian wanting to meet Jesse at a truck stop, an arrest for carrying weapons of mass destruction...the whole thing didn't add up.

But when we met Brian, he was awesome! He explained his weapons arrest (which was never charged), explained that he'd suffered from PTSD and opened up about his past. I give him a lot of credit. The problem is that his history and Jesse's naivete seemed like a bad match. To paraphrase part of the show, my example of what happened is below.

Brian: (Tells the truth about his past.) Can you forgive me?
Jesse: I don't know.
Brian: I promise I'll be truthful.
Jesse: Okay!

Even after being highly skeptical of the pair, I really wanted them to work out. They met up, had some, um, alone time, and seemed really happy. Then, we had the end of the episode where they recap their actions since filming. Jesse had planned to move out to be with Brian but he got mad when she didn't do it soon enough (and I can't blame her for the delay, honestly), but when they talked and Brian said she still should, she went out there. Two days later they realized they weren't compatible and broke up. Jesse went back home.

WHAT? So, wait, Jesse drove across the country with Brian making no effort to go visit her in Pennsylvania, and after two days they realized they were incompatible? WHAT HAPPENED?!?!? Two days? What happened in two days? It must have been drastic because I can hardly imagine what can happen in two days, aside from Jesse revealing more lies from Brian, Brian's PTSD acting up and scaring Jesse or Jesse revealing something about herself that Brian didn't know. My guess is that Brian has anger issues or something from his PTSD that came up, because I hardly think something like Jesse being a bad cook or something could destroy a relationship in two days.

In the MTV after show clip, both people claim the other person wasn't who said they were. Brian claims Jesse made bad lifestyle decisions, and Jesse claims the problem was Brian's PTSD. I think there is validity to both of their statements - I'm sure the PTSD did cause Brian to lash out, but I wasn't the hugest fan of Jesse on the show - she seemed a bit naive and too forgiving, and, well...too youthful. Not quite prepared to move cross country and live the lifestyle that Brian was looking for.

Watch the after show clip and form your own opinion. Let me know what you think.

 

15 comments:

victoriasecret0102 said...

He looked abusive

Anonymous said...

I felt the same way, very confused. Being a spouse of a military member myself I can honestly say it takes a strong woman or man to fit the role especially if ptsd is involved. I did not sense he was abusive by nature ptsd can cause the most sane person to go insane and recovering and healing from the events is so fresh for him that starting new romantic relationships probably was not smart since the focus needed to be on himself first.

Anonymous said...

Too me, she looked like she was on some kind if drugs... Maybe that was his issue with her "lifestyle choices." Just a thought....

Janie Hall said...

Maybe she was bulimic and he confronted her with it,..If she's not ready to accept her problem that would explain why she did a 180 about her feelings

Less Than Reality said...

This comment is from the blog author.

I agree with the Jesse theories. While I want to give her the benefit of the doubt, there was something about her that rubbed me the wrong way. She was thin beyond a normal point, made references to getting her life in order (which shows that something was out of order), and acted rather immature. She also made choices that weren't the best (sleeping with Brian on the first day of meeting and trusting him immediately after he apologized for the lies). And when she said she thought she never loved him at the end, it was weird - she was head over heels until something went wrong and then it was like it never happened.

Did anyone else think she had a strange accent?

Anonymous said...

Yes! Her accent and overall demeanor was weird. And her mom made that comment about it being good for her to get a fresh start somewhere new, totally made it sound like she'd made some regrettable lifestyle choices in the past.

Anonymous said...

She looked like a meth head.

Anonymous said...

I also think she looked like she was a heroin addict or something, all the sores on her face and the comment her mom made! Also what was with the bandage on her wrists?

Miss Average said...

Woohoo! I wasn't the only one who thought Fran was Brian!!!

Anonymous said...

Her lower jaw was jacked...but I would pound her hard.

Anonymous said...

I get the impression Jesse's past was in the adult industry and Brain couldn't handle that.. I'm sure drugs were involved too.

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Anonymous said...

I just saw this episode and totally thought she was a meth head. Those sores on her face are a giveaway, Aswell as the whites of her eyeballs were grey, and her sketchy demeanour. When she left the hotel room and said " all I wanna do is brush my hair and do my makeup " = tecking out. Truely hope she has found a better life for herself.

Anonymous said...

Just saw the episode too and decided to look for an update just to find that poor guy got in more trouble over drug possession and then recently past away in a motorcycle accident :(

Anonymous said...

I went to school with Jess in wallingford where she is from. Ive known her since 6 grade in middle school. When she went on the show and slept with the guy immediately im gonna say i wasnt suprised. She is a drug addict and has been for years. She had that reputation in highschool and she kept with it. She had a son a few years back and im pretty sure her drugs affected his health. She drives around in her mustang and almost drives people over with her fucking stupid crazy driving. I have lost allllll respect for her... Pathetic.