I would never say that My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding is a positive thing for American Gypsies. It, along with Gypsy Sisters, paints a pretty nasty picture of fighting, excessive spending and unsuccessful relationships. However, the show tackled an awesome topic today - the marriage of two gay Gypsies. Why is this awesome? It shows us another side of Gypsy culture - maybe not one that the mainstream Gypsies want us to see, but definitely a positive one.
In Huntsville, Alabama, couple Romanichal Tommy and Roma Ivan planned to marry. Their goal was to convince their culture to accept same sex couples.
Unfortunately, both men moved away from their homes and families because they were bullied for being gay. Yet now, they're sharing their stories in order to help others, even if it gets them even more ostracized from their Gypsy communities. (They currently live among non-Gypsies because they weren't accepted by their communities.)
Tommy planned a surprise for his future husband - he called dressmaker Sondra Celli to make suits for the couple to wear to the wedding.
Ivan took a leap and told his brother Benny that he's getting married. His brother knew he was gay but didn't know about the marriage. Unfortunately, Benny couldn't handle the news and told Ivan he couldn't accept the marriage. Next, Ivan talked to his niece Heather. Fortunately, she was supportive and said she'd be attending the wedding. Third, Ivan tried talking to his mom. Unfortunately, she wouldn't show up and sent Ivan's sister in her place...to talk Ivan out of the wedding. She hit some very low blows - she even tried to say Tommy would walk out on him. Sad, very sad.
When Ivan did talk to his mom, it did not go well - she screamed at Ivan about how he shamed her. It was awful. Tommy had a similar fate - he went to see his family and they wouldn't even answer their door for him. His brother did the same thing.
Later, Tommy's mom went against her husband's wishes and reached out to meet her son. Although she didn't approve of her son's union, she said she'd attend his wedding. In other good news, Sondra Celli delivered the pair's outfits herself so she could attend the wedding.
Tommy's bother took the family's car away from the house in order to prevent Tommy's mom from attending the wedding. In response, Tommy picked up his mom in the limo, and he got an amazing surprise when he got to her - three of his sisters, among others, were there to go to the wedding. While in the limo, Tommy 'officially' came out to his family. It was so emotional.
While Ivan's family didn't attend the wedding, Tommy's family treated Ivan as one of their own, and he was very grateful.
At the end, we were told why this couple shared their story: they wanted the other gay Gypsies to know that it's okay to be gay and they shouldn't be ashamed. They should be strong and proud, and they shouldn't have to hide.
We also met Angelina and Chad. When Gypsy Angelina married Gorger Chad, she was outcast from the community. The pair were Christening their daughter, Bella Rose, and trying to reconnect with Angelina's Gypsy family so Bella Rose can have ties to her roots.
Angelina planned a big Christening, complete with Gypsy outfits, to try to find her way back into her community. Unfortunately, things started out badly - Angelina was terribly disappointed by her brother, who refused to come to the Christening and be the Godfather for her daughter. Sadly, only Chad's stepfather and Angelina's dad were in attendance at the church ceremony. And nobody came to the Christening party. It was so, so sad. Because of this, the family decided to move to Florida, where Chad is from - there was no reason to stay in Georgia, which was full of disappointment for the couple.
The other story was Pat Baby and his wife, LuAnn, who had a great relationship until Pat Baby fell into a deep depression and turned to drugs. The pair divorced. LuAnn realized that she needed a job, and because she quit school in sixth grade, she didn't have a lot of skills or ways to make money. Sadly, because of the divorce and the Gypsies' tradition of taking a man's side, LuAnn and daughter Priscilla found themselves being outcasted from the community.
LuAnn, who was staying with her mom, picked up Pat Baby from jail (he was there for drug charges) and give him a place to stay. Pat Baby, in jail, realized the err of his ways and began to improve his life and win his wife back. The problem? LuAnn's mom Karen wouldn't accept Pat Baby, and without her permission, LuAnn wouldn't be able to remarry Pat Baby. To ask for forgiveness, Pat Baby bought his mother-in-law a blingy ring and got on his knees to apologize. He also proposed again to LuAnn. The pair remarried and were happy to do so.
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