Saturday, March 5, 2011

The Sterling Twins of Toddlers and Tiaras: Looking Back

In July 2009, I wrote an open letter to Jamie Sterling, mother of AshLynn and BreAnne Sterling, the twins featured on Toddlers and Tiaras.

Recently, I became curious about the twins, and searched their names on Google. Surprisingly, I mostly found blogs complaining about things similar to my complaints about mom Jamie and the cruelty faced by AshLynn, and no new information about AshLynn and BreAnne.

I did find a video from when the Toddlers and Tiaras episode aired with Jamie Sterling talking about parenting and entering her twin girls in pageants. I decided to watch it, and despite the fact that it's been almost two years since the episode aired, the anger towards Jamie came right back.

Her clip, right from the start, talks about favoring BreAnne because she's the prettiest of the five girls. She later talks about how AshLynn is too skinny and has a big nose, and how she's shy and timid. What didn't immediately hit me last time when I saw the Sterling Twins on Toddlers and Tiaras was how articulate AshLynn was. She's clearly very intelligent, which makes the whole situation so much worse. She knows exactly what's going on when being berated by her family. And, she looks so sad! No six year old should have to suffer the hurt and humiliation that AshLynn did, especially because she is such a beautiful and articulate child who clearly doesn't deserve her mother's behavior.

What also strikes me is that dad Barry Sterling clearly notes that he doesn't like his girls competing against each other in pageants, but denying Jamie's desire would create friction in their marriage. Stick up for yourself, man! I truly hope Barry has stood up for his beliefs after the Toddlers and Tiaras episode - he clearly knew what Jamie was doing was wrong, but didn't express it to Jamie - only to the cameras.

If anyone has any information on where the Sterling twins and Sterling family are now, please let me know! My last Sterling sighting was on Little Miss Perfect in 2010, I believe. I want to know if AshLynn is still being forced to compete in pageants, if BreAnne was finally disciplined, and if the Sterling marriage survived the Toddlers and Tiaras drama.

Update 8/15/11: Word has it that the Sterling's are getting a divorce. Click here for details.

28 comments:

caramel said...

I would also like to know what's happened to that family. Maybe they'll appear in another episode? Also, they had 5 kids so I wonder what the mom thinks of the other 3 who weren't featured...

ralphswurld said...

I've seen this episode from a channel from one of the cable tv companies, I think the antics of the parents are abusive, even on the best days. These people either don't understand the fragile nature of a child's self-esteem, or they just don't care.

Anonymous said...

I was outraged by the mother's behavior and am longing to know what happened to the girls!

Robyn said...

Maybe the others are treated normany like 30 dollers a week and normal chores and normal clothes. I heard cloie did normal pageants lucky unless the 4th child does it too and favored like briannie and Ashlynn and the 5th is treated normany and trying to find a way to stop it like I want to!

Anonymous said...

I loved that show till I saw THAT episode. It definitely lost it's magic with that one.

CoysDock said...

Yes, I too was angry at that crazy woman calling herself a mom. Even after all this time it still infuriates me, I hope they're alright.

Anonymous said...

This woman was living in my house for the past year, and I had no clue who she was! She now has 7 kids, and my former neighbors all say she is a horrible mom. She just moved out, and the house was completely filthy, beyond any acceptable conditions. The kids were ignored and left to do as they pleased. They wandered the neighborhood after dark, all alone, with zero supervision. I am so glad to have her finally out of my house!

Gia'sMom said...

I just watched and was outraged with her treatment of Ashlynn. It was like a modern day Cinderella, she never would have let Breann wear a ripped dressed. She would have been fine if he wanted to pull Ashlynn from the pageant but tried to save Breann. I commend the father for putting his foot down but he should deal with Jamie on how she treats Ashlynn. I am so glad the Director saw in Ashlynn something her on my didn't even see. I pray for Ashlynn growing up with a mom like Jamie and pray that Mr. Sterling protects her better

Gia'sMom said...

I just watched and was outraged with her treatment of Ashlynn. It was like a modern day Cinderella, she never would have let Breann wear a ripped dressed. She would have been fine if he wanted to pull Ashlynn from the pageant but tried to save Breann. I commend the father for putting his foot down but he should deal with Jamie on how she treats Ashlynn. I am so glad the Director saw in Ashlynn something her own mom didn't even see. I pray for Ashlynn growing up with a mom like Jamie and pray that Mr. Sterling protects her better

Cinder0 said...

I don't even know if it's real Somebody told it's fake! Is it fake I'd really love to know! Half of me hopes it's fake since Jamie sterling was a really bad mom! But half of me hope's it's real because then I wouldn't of been lied too and the people who watched it are not sochalpaths enjoying children suffering because it's ((fun))! What's fun about seeing a child suffering! If it's fake then Barry might be right and jamie really loves her daughters equally or it's not even a real family and they all barely know each other. If it's real then JAMIE sterling must be a monster who doesn't know how good her daughter is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jolie said...

I have been wondering about Jamie Sterling for a long time too, and I have found some info. Jamie and Barry are divorced and Jamie has custody of BreAnne, AshLynn, BriLeigh, AinsLee, and BrookLyn. Jamie has also changed her last name back to her maiden name Streetly.
Personally, I don't think Jamie is the best mother, but you have to take into consideration that all reality shows/networks are very edited, and that Sterling's words were probably edited too.

Jolie said...

Update:
Barry might have custody of 3 girls including AshLynn.

Anonymous said...

That mom is a total bitch. How can a Mom so obviously flavor one child over another! Shame on her and that horrible horse face of hers! I hope Dad gets custody cause he will be a good grounding influence

Anonymous said...

I just watched the episode online I was horrified Ashlyn is obviously very very smart and that woman seriously does not deserve her as a daughter, I am so angry that some people get to have children and they think that is all it takes to be a mom, even a pig can give birth, it does not mean the pig is a good mom. I am truly sad and sorry for that girl. THANKS SO MUCH FOR WRITING THIS POST it was as though you took every word out of my mouth, hope Ashlyn reads it some day!

Anonymous said...

the family is divorced now, hahahaha...she's lives in dallas somewhere and he's wherever...

Anonymous said...

I have found them! https://m.facebook.com/jamie.streetlysterling?fref=nf

Sassy said...

To the mom of the twins I think you need to stop making a difference between your twins, it just comes across as EVIL. Plus your not cute at all!!!! Your going to reap that negative behavior right back.... just mean!!!!!

Anonymous said...

My spirit hurts for AshLynn... I was the "smart twin" too growing up, a PC way of saying not the pretty one. My Mom and Dad were totally supportive and loved us equally, not behaving like that evil witch on the show. But kids at school have no heart and were quick to laugh at and compare me, esp when school pics came out. No matter that my IQ tested in the Bill Gates range. Looks ruled. My sis loved it of course. No little girl should have her spirit destroyed like that. The sad thing is, unless AshLynn gets around positive support, she will internalize that that's the way life is "supposed" to be for her. I pray for her every night, that she will find her happy place in life like I have, on my own, away from toxic people like that and false comparisons, and celebrated, by friends of my choosing, for who I am. Oh and they say I AM pretty :).. who knew..

Anonymous said...

What a witch. She better be glad the girls look like their father, otherwise neither of them would be pretty. Saying your child isnt as pretty as her twin, and saying she has a big nose. Sickening. At least they don't have her big overbite!! Out of every episode I have seen, she makes me the sickest!!

Anonymous said...

I just saw this episode for the first time and I really felt so bad for Brianne. I had tears coming to my eyes, the mother is awful.

Anonymous said...

I agree, I just watched a episode for 1st time as well, and she is a horrible person to make 1 child feel inferior. I'd like to smack her.

Anonymous said...

here is Ashkynne's FB:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=261247804211213&set=ecnf.100009779862696&type=3&theater

Anonymous said...

I am like all of you, I couldn't believe what I was seeing - I was subjected to this growing up and it still affects me - so , someone somewhere please stop this mother from her child having to grow up with this pain!

Anonymous said...

What a horrible, mentally abusive mother. Jamie.....STOP! You are damaging ALL of your children by doing this! They ALL see! Barry! DO SOMETHING TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS! Be a man!

Anonymous said...

To make matters worse, looks like she is or may have been a TEACHER!

tina hensley said...

Just a horrible human wrecking an innocent soul. She is nothing like a true mother.

Anonymous said...

I was so sick and sad for these little girls. Mom doesn't realize how her girls will go up resenting her for putting a wedge between them. She is a disgusting person. Awful mother!

FB Jamie Streetly Sterling - she is a PI!

Anonymous said...

I had talked to ashlynn sterling before (yes, she was talking to her fans before), i never directly asked her how she felt about her mother's attitude towards her, she clearly loves her mum and sister so much. Now Barry and Jamie are divorced long ago, and the twins (every weekdays, ashlynn stays with her dad and breanne stays with her mum) switch places during weekends and they only meet each other at school or during weekends. The cycle of switching continues.

Also, i've talked about her sister and she says, she and her twin is really very close. And about the show, she said she was really very sad about her dress that time, she loved that dress indeed. She also barely does pageants anymore, unless i she's with her mum. And the rest are random stuff we've talked about. Right now, we don't communicate because maybe she's busy.