Saturday, December 31, 2011
If you recall, Crystal Harris walked out on Hugh Hefner shortly before their wedding. A TV special was being taped for Lifetime, tons of people were invited and a bunch of money was spent. Despite the fact that Crystal embarrassed Hef by walking out before their wedding, then trashing their sex life (or lack of) to Howard Stern, Hef let Crystal keep her engagement ring and the Bentley he'd given her. She also stepped out publicly with a new boyfriend shortly after their split, raising questions about how long she'd been, um, disinterested in her relationship with Hef.
Okay, so she screwed up. But she took it one step too far for Hef when she told him that she wants their dog, Charlie, for herself. Hef took to Twitter to share this with the world, and his ex-girlfriends were less than pleased. Both Holly Madison and Kendra Wilkinson tweeted in response, slamming Crystal for her selfishness. And frankly, I don't blame them. Hef and Crystal broke up several months ago, so what kind of dog-mother is Crystal to let her dog go for several months before deciding that she should be allowed to take him back? How entitled does she feel, when the only reason she's famous is because Hef put her on TV and almost married her...and even that is because he thought that was the way to keep her in his life! (Or at least that's the way I remember it.)
Crystal needs a reality check. She made a decision: keep the ring and the car (both of which were related to the failed marriage) but leave the dog (which was their shared pet regardless). She chose the bling. Now it's too late to go back, unless she's got proof that Hef's mistreating the dog, and I can bet that with all of the butlers and servers in the house, the dog's being treated better than Crystal is right now.
I understand that Crystal misses her dog, because that's a very respectable, human reaction. But to go back to Hef and demand her pet back when she's the one who screwed him over? Not so much. Who knows, though. Maybe this is just a publicity stunt on Crystal's part to remind people of her song Club Queen so she can make some cash.
Monday, December 26, 2011
While Scott and Kourtney's tumultuous relationship may seem to be the reason for the split, I have another theory: Scott wants out of Kardashian-land now that the family is the subject of public ridicule and their popularity is sinking.
Between Kim's 72-day marriage to Kris Humphries, the accusations that the failing Kardashian Kollection from Sears is comprised of copy-cat fashion, the allegations that the Kardashians' companies use sweatshop labor and the ridiculous nail polish names in their new collection (Kim-pletely in Love, Listen to your Momager!), Scott probably wants out...and who can blame him?
I don't think there's any denying that Scott enjoyed the fame he got by being associated with the Kardashians. And he probably stayed with Kourtney as long as he did because of it. After all, he rakes in cash from the Kardashian TV shows, and I'm sure he makes loads of cash from other venues that wouldn't be available if not for the fame-whoring family. That being said, the Kardashian fame-meter is heading south, and Scott probably realizes that it's time to jump ship.
I think Scott can probably continue his television / media based work if he breaks away from the Kardashians now. He can probably host a daytime TV show or something. Eventually, if it works, he'll have his own identity aside from being a Kardashian groupie and will gain fame in his own right.
Scott seems to really care about his son and Kourtney, but the fact that his whole life is a reality TV show, and likely a soon to be failing one, can put a lot of pressure on him. I would never want to see a family break apart, but I can certainly understand Scott's concerns about remaining associated with one of America's most fame-whoring families.
Friday, December 23, 2011
Before we met the pageant girls, we met Tonya Bailey, the pageant director of America's Ultimate Beauties in Texas. She brought up the idea that people criticize pageants for being abusive, but she said that the same can be said for girls in gymnastics...and those girls don't eat. She followed that with, "At least these girls get a Pixi Stick!" A flawed argument, for sure, but at least she was funny.
SamiJo's mom, Tricia, said she wanted a daughter so she could put her in pageants. She also wanted to name her America so she could be called Miss America. I'm not a huge fan of the name SamiJo, but the whole Miss America thing was a bit of a stretch, so I suppose the girl got lucky. I hate to say it (sort of), but I just don't see SamiJo as a pageant girl.
AnnaBella, despite the ridiculous capital letter in the middle of her name, was a cool kid. She was fun, spunky and seemed to actually want to be in pageants. Plus, despite her spunky personality, AnnaBella seemed to maintain a humble, normal personality. When describing her closet, she said she has a fab side (pageant wear) and a drab side (everything else). And, the girl actually likes wearing a flipper!
Alexes is a beautiful child, but she too fell victim to a badly spelled name. Her name, which seems to be pronounced like Alexis, looks like it's supposed to be pronounced in the way that I'd say more than one Alex...Alexes. Like, the es in the word trances or something. The girl was clearly in the running to be one of the 'I throw the most temper tantrums!' winners in all of Toddlers and Tiaras. The girl is smart, though - when mom tried to tell her that pageants are fun, she straight up told her no, they aren't.
The beauty competition was first. We were told that the judges were looking for a 'facially gifted' child - AKA a pretty girl. One of the judges told us that she was looking for a girl who she'd want to take home and put on a shelf.
Not to be without drama, SamiJo had a dress emergency. One of the sleeves on her dress wasn't properly attached and had to be removed. This, of course, was made into a big dramatic scene. SamiJo went first of the featured girls. I will admit - she had an adorable onstage personality. She jumped around but it was cute. Still, I don't think her facial beauty can measure up to some of the pageant girls.
Alexes was next. Her look and outfit were fantastic, but her onstage performance was atrocious. She did so mething that looked like a mini-hoedown with no personality on her face. Annabella followed and did perfect. She is poised, beautiful and has a flawless pageant personality. In my opinion, she'd be tough to beat in beauty.
American Wear was the next competition. SamiJo wore a dress that was not terribly flattering, in my opinion, and was too long. The length of the dress and her lack of focus (she's young - who can blame her?) caused her to fall onstage. She then fell again...and again. It was a mess. I do give mom Tricia credit - she was great to SamiJo afterwards and didn't blame her at all for the wardrobe malfunction. Alexes was dressed as Sandy from Grease. Her routine was adorable at first, although a three year old wearing red heels and a tight outfit was a bit disturbing. Unfortunately, Alexes got distracted by the spinning wheel on the side of her Shake Shack prop and spun it repeatedly. On a good note, her parents were also good about her less than stellar performance. AnnaBella, again, was awesome. She was Elvis and her performance was perfect.
2 - 3 Year Old Division:
Divisional Queen: Brooke
6 - 8 Year Old Division:
Division Queen: Alyssa
American Wear: Alexes
Novice Supreme: Kiersten
Beauty Photo Supreme: SamiJo
Grand Supreme: Aishlynn
Ultimate Grand Supreme: AnnaBella - and she TOTALLY deserved it.
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Steve started by saying that Chasity had been less than honest and was first to hit the hot seat. He also called her out on her new boob job. We then saw the scene from Tough Love where Chasity said she'd stop go-go dancing. She said she's only danced twice since the show. She said her date from the show wasn't her boyfriend and can't control her, and she still aspires to be in Playboy. After that, Chasity's mom came onstage. Her mom, and Steve, called Chasity out because she wants to be a child psychologist, but she can't achieve that goal if she's been naked on the internet - she'll make herself impossible to hire.
Christine came next. She had a fake tattoo of date Frank's name on her arm. She finally seemed real on the reunion - not a pageant girl at all, but a girl with real feelings and emotions. Joann Ward said she wasn't sure where the relationship would go, and the girls seemed distrusting of Frank due to their rough patches. Frank, when he went onstage, said that once he and Christine got past some hurdles, their relationship became very solid. Christine then gave her promise ring to Frank.
Claudia was third. She's been dating a guy she met through a family member. He was in the audience and came on stage, and both Claudia and her date seemed to truly respect each other - Claudia even told her date she was in love with him and gave him her promise ring.
After being introduced as the girl who was desperate to settle down, Brigette was called to the hot seat. After boot camp, Anthony went to visit Brigette, and she realized it wouldn't work out. Anthony psychoanalyzed everything she did, called Brigette's mom if she didn't answer her phone, etc. While Anthony wasn't live in the studio, he was brought up live on video chat. Anthony tried to defend himself, and Brigette got mad - she said she was glad that Anthony was nowhere near her. She begged Steve to take him off the screen because he always degraded her. Brigette then asked for her promise ring back and Anthony said he'd mail it back. Brigette claimed that Anthony had an alternate personality for the cameras and was awful when offscreen. Brigette also said she has a new boyfriend now and they're taking it slow...and she realizes that things aren't perfect, but they are good.
Liz Richards was next...and if you recall, she wasn't on Tough Love Miami. She was on the second season of Tough Love. After a montage of her Tough Love experience, she came onstage looking completely different. She said she and her Tough Love date didn't last, but that was okay because she realized that her date wasn't what she wanted. She realized that you can put up a lot of criteria for a man, but criteria isn't what matters - it's finding someone who's right for you. She's also now married to a man named Andy and showed everyone that boot camp does work.
Avonte was next, and she said she's been supporting date Eric in his goal to become a singer. That being said, she's been dating, in her words, a few athletes. Eric was brought out next and told Avonte that he has nothing to prove by way of his career and actions. Joann said that Eric's a great guy and she has plenty of women for him. It sounded like Avonte was full of excuses for her actions, saying Eric lived too far away, yet she was non-exclusively dating an athlete in Denver. Arguments started until Joann stepped in...it seems like the girls were upset by Avonte's lack of improvement.
Next was Leilani, who's still with George. The pair does fight, and Joann said their fights seem superficial. George came out and the pair said that they're good for each other even though they fight. George has asked Leilani to move to Miami to be with him, but she says she's not ready.
Michelle went after Leilani. If you recall, she and date Sam did really well on the show, but things didn't seem to be so great when the reunion aired. Michelle got teary-eyed during her talk because while she was thrilled to be with Sam, she found out he had a girlfriend. He flew out to see Michelle, and while she wanted to be angry, she realized she really cared about him and forgave him. She said she still thinks about him all the time. As a surprise, Steve brought Sam out, and Michelle was shocked. Steve asked why Sam was there, and he said he wanted to see Michelle. He apologized and said he wants to spend more time with her. Michelle was really smart at this point - she asked Sam if she should believe him. He said his past relationship was over, and Steve offered to pay for the pair to have dinner. Michelle looked so happy. YEA Michelle!!!
Steve thanked the women for participating in his Tough Love boot camp, and let us know that there will, in fact, be another Tough Love boot camp in the future.
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
First up was mom Kelly and 23 month old Natalie. Kelly is addicted to winning pageants. She doesn't know if her daughter likes them, but Kelly certainly does.
At 23 months old, Natalie prepared for her first spray tan. She cried. Later, mom put Natalie's pageant outfit on and again, Natalie cried. I think you're seeing the pattern.
Second was mom Ally and daughter Samara. This was my favorite pair in the pageants. Mom loves heavy metal music, has lots of tattoos and used to sing in a Christian heavy metal band. Samara tends to place either very high or low in pageants because she doesn't have the typical pageant girl look, according to her mom.
Samara goes onstage herself at pageants, which is not the case for many girls in the two year old division. That being said, it doesn't mean mom wasn't nervous about it - Samara either acts great or does her "chookey moves," which is her way of saying weird movements.
Third was Cadence and grandma Debbie. Debbie's daughter and older granddaughter did pageants before Cadence did. Debbie is serious about pageants. She talks very matter-of-factly about them and makes it clear that to win, girls need everything from spray tans to heavy makeup to tons of practice.
Natalie went first in beauty. She did well...at first. Then, she fell forward with her butt towards the audience and started crying. Mom said that judges had already seen Natalie's personality, so the fall shouldn't hurt her score. I'm not sure I agree. Samara was next. She was adorable on stage. She had a genuine smile and showed a lot of personality. However, things went downhill when she started prancing around and doing her chookey moves. Cadence followed, but not without some pressure from grandma Debbie. Grandma's pressure must have worked because Cadence was perfectly poised. Grandma was still critical.
Next we saw Island Wear. As usual, Natalie cried. She had good reason - her costume was uncomfortable - but the crying seemed to become quite a habit with this girl. Fortunately, Natalie pulled it together when she was onstage. Samara, again, was adorable. Cadence kept her smile perfect onstage, but her routine felt a little rushed to me. She moved very quickly.
All girls were crowned at least at the princess level. The pageant tried something different: girls crowned as princesses could still be pulled for a supreme title.
0 - 23 Month Division:
Princesses: Mckenzie, Talia, Natalie
At this point, mom Kelly got angry and stormed out. She told her husband to leave the crown since she'd rather have no crown than a princess crown. I guess she missed the memo about placing for princess and still having the chance for a higher title. When Kelly was alerted of the titling process, she was appalled and didn't want to go back in.
2 Year Division:
Princesses: Cassie, Savannah, Samara
7 - 8 Year Division:
Princesses: Isabella Jane and Gabby
Queen: Cadence (Grandma was upset that she didn't place higher.)
Novice Supreme: Natalie (Fortunately, dad was still at the pageant with Natalie to bring her onstage.)
Grand Supreme: Samara (YEA Samara!)
Lowe's recently pulled their ads from the TLC show All American Muslim. However, the company claims to be committed to diversity and inclusion. This hardly matches up. Lowe's claims their decision to pull ads from All American Muslim was based on feedback from various groups. That being said, did they think their decision wouldn't cause more negative feedback?
I think Lowe's acted in a cowardly manner by pulling their ads from All American Muslim. Why? Because they were perfectly happy advertising on the show until people protested. Then, they were more than willing to pull their ads away from a show that portrays happy, normal American people. All American Muslim is a positive show. It's goal is to portray people who are living the American dream that happen to be Muslim. There's no doubt that there's still sensitivity from 9-11, but this show lets us know that many people of the Muslim faith are great people with strong moral values.
I'm not going to say I've watched much of the show, but I have watched some, and I enjoyed it. Plus, it's much more friendly than shows like Keeping Up With the Kardashians and Jersey Shore. Pulling ads from All American Muslim sends the completely wrong message to society when advertisers are clamoring for space on shows that are much more damaging to society.
I am 100% for All American Muslim being on TV, and I think Lowe's made a huge mistake by pulling their ads from the show.
Monday, December 12, 2011
Needless to say, nerves were running high. Avonte wasn't sure what to do. Christine talked about what a big deal it is to give someone a ring. Brigette actually spoke rationally about relationships, showing what a long way she's come since the beginning of Tough Love boot camp.
Michelle, a fitness fanatic who used to be into bad boys, went first. Michelle told her date Sam that he's shown her what she really values from a relationship and thinks that he's incredible. She handed Sam her promise ring. Sam said it means a lot, then said the word "unfortunately," which made tensions run high. However, he followed it up by saying that it was unfortunate that he met Michelle so late in the competition and would love to see her again. (Go, Michelle!) Steve asked Michelle if she's ready for love, and she said that she is.
Chasity was second. She spoke to her date Al. First, though, she talked to Steve about who she is - which is more than just the dancer that she originally thought she was. Chasity made a great choice - she told Al that she wants to keep seeing him, but she's keeping her promise ring to remind herself of the changes she's made for herself, not for a man.
Leilani was third. She and her date George caught up and discussed the promise ring. Leilani gave George the promise ring and said it stands for real promises - she promised to make time to go and see George after boot camp. George was happy to accept the ring.
Next, a special guest was brought in: Claudia, who left boot camp early to address her past. She looked happy and let the girls know she was doing well.
Jane came up after Claudia. She admitted that boot camp meant a lot to her. She read a letter to the girls telling them that they are beautiful and how much they mean to her. After that, her date Allen came out. Remember, this was her boyfriend / hookup before she went to boot camp. Jane said she realized how much Allen wants to be with her, but kept the promise ring for herself. Still, she promised Allen that she wants to work on their relationship.
After Jane came Brigette. She was very torn on what to do with her promise ring: give it to date Anthony or keep it for herself. She noted that as soon as her turn to present the ring came, she knew what she had to do. Brigette began by thanking Anthony for sharing the journey with her, but said that she doesn't want to rush anything. She did give Anthony the ring, but with the promise of taking the relationship slowly.
Avonte followed, and Donald, the man who helped her grow as a person, came out of the limo to see her. She thanked him for allowing her to have an amazing journey at boot camp. Next, Eric came out as the person that Avonte connected with. She said that she's happy to have met Eric because he's a great match, and she's going to give Eric her promise ring because she believes in them.
Christine and date Frank were next. Christine complimented their connection and said that she initially didn't want to give Frank her ring. However, she did say that she could eventually see the pair giving each other real rings. She said she was going to keep her promise ring for her daughter. She showed Frank the book she's been keeping in which she wrote about their dates, and Frank said they'd need a lot more books for their future.
This was a great end to a great season of Tough Love Miami. Steve told the women that he was so pleased with all of them. He then thanked his mom, and Joanne also spoke to the women, telling them that they are special. And with that, Tough Love Miami concluded.
Friday, December 9, 2011
This pageant was Southern Celebrity - New Jersey Glitzmas. The contestants had to dress in holiday colors for the Christmas theme, and the pageant was full glitz. According to the pageant director, many kids came from out of state for this New Jersey pageant, which doesn't surprise me.
Bob and Riley
First we met Katie, mom of Bob, 6, and Riley, 5, of Williamstown, NJ. Both participate in pageants. Riley had done over 75 pageants, but this would be her first glitz pageant. Bob also participates in pageants. In fact, Katie was disappointed when she found out she was having a boy because she wanted a pageant queen. Even though her first born was male, son Bob went through a phase where he wore dresses and insisted he was a girl.
Riley said that when she loses a pageant, her heart is very small and black. That's a bit intense for a five year old. Mom also had a strange attitude...she got mad when her husband told Riley to make funny faces because it takes her out of pageant mode.
Bob had a tail on the back of his hair, and mom Katie put beads on it. They plan to keep growing the tail until Bob's done with it, at which point it'll go into Katie's jewelry box. (This tail wasn't well received by the judges.)
The family took cues from drag queens, using learnings from drag shows to create pageant moves. The parents even took the kids to drag shows.
Before Riley went onstage for beauty, mom was clearly nervous because this was their first glitz pageant. However, Riley did great. She stumbled a little, and her moves weren't perfect, but she had a natural charm. Bob didn't seem to have the same natural talent of his sister...he looked a bit terrified and stared at his mom for direction.
Riley's Glitzmaswear was a mess. She looked like she had a great time and the judges smiled, but all she did was run back and forth across the stage. When Bob went on, he looked kind of crazy...and I think he was wearing the same costume as Riley wore.
Riley's talent was to do some hand movements while standing still in a cowboy outfit...it was hardly a talent. Bob did not do a talent. Alexis performed her talent after Riley to a Ru Paul song, and Katie was mad because her husband talked her into using a mainstream song, not one by an artist like Ru Paul.
Lauren, mom of Laila, 3, from Montebello, NY, was next. Mom said "Laila grew up doing pageants" which kind of ages the 3 year old. Lauren puts a high value on money - she pays for Laila to have the absolute best for her pageant appearances.
When Laila hit the stage for beauty, she had great poise for a three year old. Her moves were perfect and her pacing was great. That being said, her smile was a bit weak.
For Glitzmaswear, Laila dressed up as a Rockette. The outfit was cute, but a little too revealing for a three year old. She did great on stage, though, and looked like she had a fantastic time.
Laila's talent was ballet. She was really good, especially for a girl her age. Laila and mom made up the routine as they went along, and for an ad-hoc routine, it went really well. However, when she got offstage, Laila cried.
Anna-Maria, a 9 year old self-proclaimed drama queen, was next. She and mom Crystal are from Chester, PA. Anna-Maria is a genuinely beautiful girl. She also seems like she genuinely enjoys pageants.
Crystal's husband (Anna Maria's dad) doesn't think Anna Maria should be in pageants, and the pair even separated once because of the disagreement. Fortunately, they reconciled, but pageants still strain their relationship. Despite that, Anna Maria has everything she needs for pageants, even a coach named Ryann.
Anna-Maria faced some tough competition at the pageant: a girl, Maya, who looked very similar to her. They even wore the same color dress (white). Both Maya and Anna Maria did great - they were both very polished, although Anna was a bit sassier. It was noted that Anna may lose points for her dress not being a perfect cupcake style; it was a dress her mom designed.
Maya's Glitzmaswear was intense; she did a lot of gymnastic-type moves. Anna-Maria didn't have as much technical stuff, but her attitude and spirit were great. Unfortunately, she was negatively affected when the person who was supposed to throw snow on the stage didn't, and it made her routine messy.
Anna-Maria hula hooped for her talent. She did some tricks, but the routine didn't seem like it would make her stand out much. Especially against Maya, who did a crazy gymnastics routine.
3 Year Olds:
Celebrity Beauty: Courtney
Celebrity Division Queen: Amara
Contestants to come back for a higher title: Laila
Celebrity Supreme King: Bob
Most Beautiful: Alexis
Supreme Queen: Riley
Most Beautiful: Myah
Miss Personality: Anna-Maria
Celebrity Supreme Queen: Emily
Contestants to come back for a higher title: Myah and Anna-Maria
Talent Supreme: Anna-Maria
0-6 Grand Supreme: Laila
Ultimate Grand Supreme: Myah
I think Myah deserved Grand Supreme, although I also think Anna-Maria did great in the pageant.
Teen Mom 2 is back on MTV, and it's the same old stuff as last season. Kailyn dates Jordan, Leah and Corey are tumultuous, Jenelle dates Keiffer again and learns nothing, and Chelsea falls for Adam yet again. I'm sure the show will be on the air for many more seasons because people (myself included) keep watching, but it's so played out. I can't keep watching Jenelle fall for Keiffer and Chelsea fall for Adam.
I watched America's Supernanny, and it's hardly riveting...but I do like the supernanny that the show chose. Her name is Deborah Tillman, and she certainly knows her stuff when it comes to childcare. I like that she's got more attitude than the previous television nannies - she tells it like it is. That being said, the concept is so played out, and despite the fact that Lifetime tried to be edgy by featuring a lesbian family, a nanny show is still a nanny show, and it's hardly exciting.
Khloe Kardashian was sued for shoving a transgendered woman a few years ago. This isn't surprising, considering the Kardashians are hardly known for making great decisions, but Khloe's supposed to be the most rational, or so I thought. On another Kardashian note, I tried to see if I could look past the Kardashian name and like the Kardashian Kollection at Sears...and I can't. Super tacky, much like the Kardashians themselves. And, aside from that, they were accused of copying designs from actual designers, which only makes everything worse. Not kool, Kardashians.
Update: Khloe is now getting fertility treatments to have a baby. Good luck, Khloe!
Hulk Hogan and ex-wife Linda Bollea are still at war. Linda was given 70% of Hulk Hogan's assets in their divorce, per Perez Hilton, and claims that Hulk had frequent affairs with men. Hulk, of course, is mad about this and is trying to get Linda to shut up by way of a lawsuit. Classy, classy family.
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Upon hearing the video of Christine's ex Josh's confession, we finally saw some real emotion from Christine. She broke down. She started crying because she felt that Josh pushed her into the arms of another man. Christine said that her cheating was in part her fault, but part of it was Josh's fault for making her feel unwanted. Steve lectured Christine about how she should have ended the relationship with her husband before she cheated (since she was the one who filed for divorce in the end). Christine knew that she should have, but said her relationship moved too fast. She then cried about how she was supposed to be Mrs. Iowa (AKA a perfect beauty queen) and her life was really a mess.
After that confrontation, the mood immediately lightened because Steve told the girls that they'd be going on overnight dates...on a cruise to the Bahamas. Of course, no date is simple, and Steve gave each of the girls a mission for the cruise.
Brigette was told to analyze her thoughts for Anthony and where she wants the relationship to go.
Leilani was told to think about her relationship with George and if it can survive.
Christine was told to be forthcoming with Frank about her needs in a relationship.
Avonte was told to keep her guard down.
Chasity, who was going on the cruise with Al, was told to tell him what kind of relationship she wants.
Michelle was told that she would go on the cruise with Sam, who was not the bad boy she's used to.
Jane was told to try to resolve her feelings for Allen once and for all.
Here's what happened on the cruise:
Al made it clear to Chasity that he wanted to continue to see her, and she wanted the same, but Al wasn't opening up to her. Chasity began to talk to Al about what was bothering her, and he responded positively, strengthening their relationship.
Christine took her opportunity to open up to Frank. She explained what happened in her past relationship and what she needed. Frank was completely open to being the man Christine wanted.
Michelle and Sam went snorkeling and kayaking, and Michelle was committed to making this date better than their first, where her ex was present. And she did! Michelle and Sam shared a kiss, and later in the confessional, Michelle couldn't stop smiling. She told Sam about her past relationship issues, which he accepted, and decided that she wanted to move forward with him.
Avonte opened up and shared her feelings without being aggressive. However, she started to doubt her date because he didn't have a stable life plan. Later, she realized that her date could be a great guy for her, even if he doesn't have everything she originally wanted.
At first, Jane looked genuinely happy and enjoyed her time on the cruise with her date. However, later, Jane focused on the past and spent time dwelling on past problems. She later turned things around and discussed her desires in a healthy way. Jane was honest with herself - she kept an open mind about her relationship - but admitted it may not be what she wants.
Brigette and Anthony had a blast together at first, but then Brigette realized something - she doesn't know all she needs to know about Anthony. They may not be as compatible as she originally thought. She also realized she hadn't gotten to know basic facts about Anthony, and the relationship may have moved too fast. When Anthony talked about moving the relationship forward, Brigette realized she may have to pull back.
That was it for part one of the Tough Love season finale. Next week, the season will close up and we'll learn what happens with the girls' promise rings.
The Hanson brothers, formerly known for their bubblegum pop music and being mistaken for girls, have decided to create an IPA beer for their now over-21 fans. The IPA, which will hit the market in 2012, will be called MMMHop. If you were a pre-teen or something like it in the 90's, you get the reference.
Tinted Windows. To be fair, though, calling the beer MMMHop will garner lots of media attention that it wouldn't get if it wasn't equated with Hanson. And, the guys say that it's all part of their Hanson brand building.
I wonder if the fact the beer is Hanson branded will help or hurt its sales. I'm sure Hanson fans will buy it because it's a Hanson beer, but will those who were appalled by MMMBop and I'll Be With You In Your Dreams be willing to take the plunge into a Hanson-branded product? Will grown men be embarrassed to drink the brew even if it's good? I guess only time will tell. I can tell you this - I can't stand beer and I'll definitely be giving MMMHop a try.
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Tuesday, November 29, 2011
|This fitness fanatic no longer dates bad boys.|
I just want to add something - some of my own commentary. Michelle should not have been on the hot seat this week. She shouldn't have gotten in trouble for her ex's behavior. That being said, she was one of three on the hot seat, so I think she was simply on the hot seat for dramatic effect. Not cool, Steve Ward, not cool!
Monday, November 28, 2011
I'm not going to lie - I went into this post thinking that I'd be writing something snarky and sarcastic. Something that would truly agree with the sentiments of the teenagers on this week's Sister Wives. But Robyn's kindness at the end of the episode has gotten to me a bit, so this post will have some sarcasm, but also some sappiness.
First and foremost, not all of the Brown kids were happy that Robyn was having a baby. And honestly, I don't blame them. Robyn did come along fairly recently and change the dynamic of their already established family...and a lot of the turmoil in the family's lives (like the investigation & moving to Las Vegas) happened shortly after Robyn came along. Plus, she didn't come alone - she brought along three kids that aren't fitting in seamlessly with Kody's biological kids. This should not be surprising, honestly. The fact that any of them believed they could go straight to "YEAAA happy family!" with no transition was living in some kind of alternate universe. Really, though, the kids have a right to be less than thrilled. Another child will only stretch the family's income thinner (and I imagine renting four houses already consumes tons of cash), and the older kids will likely end up playing babysitters to Solomon like they do now for the other young kids. With Kody shifting from house to house, each mom is a single parent 3/4ths of the time, so the teens have to step it up to keep things under control. It's not like the kids aren't stressed enough about being in Las Vegas or anything...babysitting your newest mom's kid will clearly make things easier. Wait, no it won't.
Secondly, I'll address the sappy part. We've seen Meri and Mariah struggle because Mariah is Meri's only child, and both Meri and Mariah want more kids in their immediate family. Meri, in a very intelligent decision, turned down Kody's suggestion to get in vitro fertilization in a previous season. Note that her decision was a good one, in my opinion, for financial reasons, as in vitro is super expensive and isn't a guaranteed success. So when Robyn offered to be a surrogate for Meri's baby, that made me drop a lot of the negative feelings I had about her joining the family. Yes, she caused stress. Yes, she caused major problems in Kody's other marriages. And yes, she created a lot of expenses without having a job. But I do believe she's a genuinely good person, and her offer to be a surrogate for Meri was amazing. I mean, she'll have to go through nine months of pregnancy, just to hand off the baby to Meri when it's over. Robyn will be part of the child's life, obviously, but it's still going to be Meri's baby. And that is such a wonderful gift for Meri, who was the first wife, has gone through the most with Kody, and has had such incredible heartbreak as her Sister Wives conceived when she could not.
Now, that being said, I read a blog (a really good one about Sister Wives, actually!) that talks about how fake Robyn's birth scene was (agreed, based on the lack of reaction while giving birth), the fact that she offered to birth Meri's baby immediately after having her own (highly inappropriate timing, and surprising considering the discomfort of pregnancy and childbirth) and that Robyn seems to be manipulating the family. I don't think she's doing it intentionally, honestly, although if she is, it seems to be encouraged by Kody. The blog also brought up a good point - Meri's daughter will be out of the house soon, which means Meri's free to leave Kody and the family, and I wouldn't be surprised if she did that. And Robyn probably knows that Meri's on her way out, so the probably TLC-forced (or at least suggested) offer to birth her baby could be a way to ensure the Sister Wives get a fourth season. And the cash flow that they're now accustomed to earning.
One more tidbit before I close out this post: Robyn's ex-husband, David Preston Jessop, is reportedly less than thrilled with her putting their kids on television. I guess Robyn didn't need his consent, given that she has custody of the kids. If I were him, I'd also be concerned about the way Robyn tried to automatically assimilate her kids into their new family as if they'd always been a part of it. Most disturbing to me was that she wanted her kids to call Kody their dad, and the fact that she gave them a polygamist dollhouse when they joined the family. I have no issue with polygamy, but it seemed like a strange move towards getting the kids accustomed to having multiple moms. And it's also irrelevant, now, because in the season finale of Sister Wives, Kody seemed to plan to buy land on which to build four separate houses. This wasn't by choice, it's due to building code, but still.
We all know this MILF-type woman exists, but now VH1 is making it public in a new show called Mama Drama. The show, which is set to premiere on January 1st, 2012, places five mother-daughter pairs in a house together. During their stay, the moms have to party with their daughters, and essentially, act the age that they want people to believe they are.
While there might actually be a good lesson in this show (that it's not really a great idea to pretend you're twenty one when you're fifty five), the show isn't about that - it's about the drama. You know the VH1 drama I'm talking about - the hardcore fights were people launch verbal attacks so brutal that even impartial viewers are taken aback. According to executive producer SallyAnn Salsano (who also produced Jersey Shore), the fights are personal, and when people attack each other, it becomes very intense and personal.
The show, which is being called a social experiment of sorts, is sure to be a hot mess. Why would I say that? Well, for starters, VH1's blog markets the show as a 10-episode series packed with drama, conflict, and unpleasant realizations, all without the help of a therapist or guide.
Some critics, like Megan Angelo of BusinessInsider.com, think the show will be even more depraved than Jersey Shore, and others think Mama Drama won't be able to compete with the lighthearted fun that we see between Snooki and the others in Seaside Heights. While critics seem to be skeptical of this show, VH1 is starting their marketing early, so it's sure to capture a large, highly intrigued audience. (It pretty much has to do better than Famous Food, at least!) Plus, with its prime time slot - the night after the New Year's parties when people are hung over and don't want to roll off the couch - the show is sure to at least garner attention for its freshman episode.
My opinion on this show is that it's going to be a hit. VH1 viewers thrive on the whole "how can they live like that?!?" brand of horror and fascination, so this show is sure to please. I can't speak for anyone else, but I've been missing the ridiculous antics that we came to know and love on VH1, like what we saw on Flavor of Love, Rock of Love and The Surreal Life. And while this show is sure to make me hate the world at least a little bit more than I already do, I'll be tuned in. I mean, how can you resist a wannabe MILF being yelled at by a daughter who just wants a mom, not a 30-years-older clone of herself?
Sunday, November 27, 2011
The girls were excited as the doorbell rang, but the excitement quickly changed as the girls realized what was happening: their exes were showing up at the door. First to enter was Brigette's ex, Bobby, who remained a close friend of hers. A while later, Brigette's new date Anthony showed up. Brigette did a great job introducing the pair, and she encouraged the two to discuss her and her past. That was very responsible of her, but here's the thing: Brigette's still friendly with her ex. Bobby and Anthony talking was a positive thing for her, unlike it would be for some of the other girls.
While some girls, like Christine, freaked out, Michelle remained calm. She was convinced that none of her exes would show up. Unfortunately, she was wrong - flaky ex-boyfriend George showed up at the Tough Love house. As the day went on, we learned just how flamboyant George was - and why he made a terrible match for Michelle. To balance that out, Steve brought in a new date for Michelle: Sam. This allowed her to see the difference between who she's dated in the past and who she deserves. When Michelle realized what was going on, we finally got to see some of Michelle's raw emotion. In the confessional, she said, "Excuse my language, but what the ****?" The last word was bleeped out, so I'll leave it that way. I can definitely see why she had that reaction - I mean, seriously? Pair a crazy ex with a new date, and you can hardly expect a comfortable outcome! Fortunately, Michelle handled the situation well, and explained the situation upfront to her new date. It's a good thing Michelle gave the upfront explanation, because her ex immediately started telling Michelle's new date what she likes, which seemed to describe him well, but didn't describe Sam at all. However, his words certainly weren't supportive - he was out to break Sam down before Michelle could even begin to like him. Unfortunately, while Michelle was able to spend time with Sam, she didn't have much luck with George: he ran around ranting like a crazy person.
Chasity's ex Thomas was next. Their hug was not one that we'd expect from a pair of exes - Chasity jumped on him like he was her current boyfriend. The pair remained close and cuddly, so when Chasity's date Al showed up, Chasity wasn't even happy. She wanted to spend more time with ex Thomas. Chasity knew the situation would be awkward, but she certainly didn't do anything to help it - she told Al that her makeup got all over Thomas when she hugged him!
Jane's ex Allen was next, and this was a sensitive topic because Jane had never stopped seeing him before she came to the Tough Love house. Jane, in strong contrast to Chasity, looked completely disinterested in seeing Allen. When Jane saw Allen, she looked completely bored and dead inside. Their was an incredible amount of tension, and we didn't see any of Jane's spicy personality. As the pair continued to communicate, emotions ran high, and Jane cried and expressed her feelings to Allen, who remained calm throughout the whole situation.
Leilani's situation was a bit different - Steve Ward decided that instead of bringing her ex into the house, he'd bring her date George's ex-girlfriend, Sara. Sara is still a part of George's life - she's his ex-wife. Leilani had an even bigger surprise after that - George showed up and the three had to share a conversation.
Christine continued to panic about seeing her ex, and seemed convince herself that a different ex (an ex-boyfriend, not ex-husband) would show up. Unfortunately, she was wrong, and her ex-husband Josh was next to walk through the door. It turns out that her ex made the last minute decision to come to the show and left their daughter Delaney with his mom. The pair was incredibly awkward...they hugged but the tension was incredibly evident. The pair started to talk, and Christine told Josh that the girls said she was living in fairytale land. Christine asked her ex if he agreed, and he did. I'm with Josh on this one. Christine's clearly blocking out the things she doesn't want to face, and it's affecting her ability to live a life where she can move on and let someone see her real personality. While she was horrified to see her ex, Christine was thrilled when her date Frank showed up at the house. Christine introduced the pair, and after the initial conversation, Christine walked away from Josh with Frank and left Josh on his own. This seemed like her way of avoiding him and pushing him away from her life, even though he was in the Tough Love house. Later, Christine pulled Frank aside for a make-out session. She thought no one could see her, but even her ex, who was standing around awkwardly, could see her every move. When Frank said they should stop and head back to the others, Christine justified her actions by saying that she always tries to please everyone but herself so she deserves this. Ultimately, Josh left the house, and Christine didn't even notice. Instead of concern when Michelle told her about that, she was simply relieved that her ex was gone.
Avonte's ex didn't come because he's married, just like he was when Avonte dated him. However, Steve brought in a new date for Avonte, Eric. Like Avonte, Eric tells it like it is, so he could make a good match for her. The pair hit it off really well, probably because Eric challenges her and matches her outgoing personality.
The group session came next, and one of the girls found herself in the hot seat.
Brigette was told that she did the best this week because she handled the situation with her ex and her current date very well. Brigette also shared that she and Anthony are now calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend.
Steve talked to Chasity next. She was clearly confused because she has feelings for her ex, Thomas, even though she knows that she shouldn't. Steve asked her whether she thought there could be a future for her and Thomas and she said she didn't know. After that, we saw Thomas' feedback - he said he wouldn't get back with Chasity, but that's because they'd be in a long distance relationship. He added onto that by saying that he didn't have feelings for Chasity in the way that she did for him. She and Steve discussed her current date, Al, and how Chasity needed to explain her feelings to him.
The hot seat went to somebody I never would have expected: Michelle. If you've been watching the whole season, you've noticed that we haven't seen as much of Michelle as we have the other girls. Why? Because she's the most low key, down to earth person in the house. While the other girls fight, she keeps her composure. She's really got her life together, aside from the whole dating situation. So when I heard her name called for the hot seat, I was seriously surprised. As soon as she sat in the hot seat, Michelle started to apologize for her ex's behavior. However, Steve stopped her soon after she began her conversation. He told her that she's in the hot seat because he doesn't know anything about her. Michelle seemed genuinely confused and asked Steve how he could say that. Steve said that he learned more from one night with George than he did from his whole session with Michelle. During his feedback video, George talked about how Michelle liked when George acted like an egomaniac and stand up for himself. Michelle admitted to Steve that she used to get angry and black out, which to me, explained why she had relationships with guys like George. Steve pressed her further, asking why she hadn't admitted this and other things earlier like the other girls had. That's when Michelle got mad. Steve still pressed on, telling Michelle that she needs to admit that she likes to push people's buttons and still likes the bad boys. Michelle was offended, and rightfully so, as she's clearly been working through her issues and Steve, at that moment, seemed to push her back to square one. After that, Steve showed Michelle Steve's feedback. When asked if he knew what was happening with Michelle's ex, Steve said he could hear the smack talk behind his back. However, he still liked Michelle and wanted to see her again.
Just when the worst seemed to be over, Steve called Jane up as the second person to be in the hot seat. She was in the hot seat because of how she talked to her ex, Allen. Steve got her admit that she causes conflict, which was evident from the way Jane spoke to her ex. When Steve asked Jane's ex if Jane had talked about how she's changed in the house, he said that she did. He followed that up by saying the pair could be together again in the future, but they both still have a lot of changes to make. Steve asked Jane if there was hope for her and Allen, and she said yes. Yet when Steve brought Allen into the room, Jane started to cry and broke down. Allen told Jane that he wants to work with her on their relationship, and Jane said she'd like to try as well. That's when we saw some of the real Jane - she felt much better when Steve gave her the go ahead to work on things with her ex.
There was yet another hot seat for this session, and it belonged to Christine. After confronting the issue of Christine's make-out session with her date in front of her ex, Steve asked Christine again why her marriage ended. She, like usual, said it was because her ex didn't have passion for her. However, her ex told another story: he said Christine's infidelity ended the marriage!
Next week, the girls will go on cruises with their dates, and the future of their relationships will be discussed. We'll also get to see more of Christine's reaction to the cheating allegations, and it looks like she'll be quite defensive.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
I can see what Chris Daughtry is saying about American Idol going soft. I mean, the main change is obvious: Simon Cowell's gone, and Jennifer Lopez and Steven Tyler are hardly as vicious as Simon was. That being said, the whole dynamic of the show shifted when J Lo and Steven joined the judging panel, so I wouldn't say the judging style is better or worse...it's just different. Gone was the good cop/bad cop dynamic that Simon and Paula Abdul had (with the random Randy Jackson "dawg" and Kara Dio Guardi's unmemorable comments), and in are the new judges, who are still feeling out their roles on the show.
One factor that I think affects the current judging panel versus the panel of Simon's generation is that J Lo and Steven Tyler have to protect their images in a way that Simon didn't. Simon was the mean guy - that was his thing. But J Lo and Steven Tyler were stars before this show and will be afterwards, so they have to consider their public images. If they turn into major jerks on TV, will producers want to work with them? Will they get cast in movies? Will managers want to take them on? A bad reputation in Hollywood is toxic...and these two have a lot to lose if they exhibit diva-like behavior.
Would some good criticism be nice in next season's American Idol? Absolutely. And I think there will be, now that the dynamic is pretty well set among the judges. Hopefully, the judges will take a cue from their increased comfort level and from Daughtry's comments and add a bit of Simon's spirit back in the mix.
Sunday, November 20, 2011
Brigette was up first. She had to roll the die and move six steps. She landed on the spot labeled sex. Steve asked her if dating more than one guy at a time and not telling them was a white lie (small lie) or red lie (big lie). She said it was a white lie, and Steve and Joanne Ward were appalled.
Christine was next. She was asked if telling a guy he was the first to give her an orgasm was a white or red lie. She said it was a red lie. She was right.
Leilani landed on Steve's Choice. He asked her what the biggest lie she ever told a guy was, and she said telling him she wasn't ready for a relationship because he had a small penis.
Other questions ranged from whether it's okay to pretend you're sick to avoid seeing your boyfriend's parents, to lie about your age and if it's okay to lie when an ex calls and say it's a wrong number. This ended Round 1.
Avonte was up first in Round 2. Avonte was confronted on the fact that she's lied about what she makes so a boyfriend will cover her expenses. She said it was a white lie. Steve disagreed - he sees it as a manipulation.
Jane was asked what the worst guy she ever told a guy was. She completely froze. She said she lied to her ex about wanting him just because she was lonely. (She'd been sleeping with her ex before boot camp began and had a hard time admitting it.) After she said that, Michelle felt like everything she knew about Jane was a lie, and other girls were happy to see Jane called out on her antics.
After the game, Steve told the women that he's surprised at the lies they tell, especially when they know they shouldn't be lying.
During the ride back to the Tough Love house, Jane was called out on her lies. The confrontation went down because Jane seemed to still be into her ex, which the girls said is why she can't be into her date Arthur the way he's into her. Avonte, the ringleader of the fight, really set Jane off. She turned red, started screaming and freaked out, calling Avonte a mean girl. The fight became a major screaming match filled with crazy amounts of anger.
The girls were brought together to discuss lies that their exes told them.
Michelle said a guy planned out a proposal for her, but he was legally married. Christine was told that her partner physically loved her when he didn't. Leilani had a guy who said he was constantly busy seeing family, but was seeing an ex. Chasity was told her boyfriend was loyal to her while away at school, but he was seeing someone else. Brigette was told by someone that he wasn't ready for a relationship, but he was dating another woman shortly afterwards. Jane had given an ex money for a reason she deemed acceptable but he used it for something else. Avonte said she was told that her relationship with her guy was spiritual, but he was married to someone else.
The girls were given the task to tell their date about the situation noted above, but not get emotional about it. They were asked to present the situation with emotional maturity and show that a past relationship doesn't equate to current damage.
Leilani's approach to her discussion was asking George what the biggest lie he's ever been told and hope that George would ask her back. He did, and Leilani was able to tell the story free of negative emotion. Chasity was also able to share her story.
Avonte struggled a bit, but when she let her story out, her date was happy to get to know the real Avonte. That being said, things didn't stay so positive - her date was taken back by her story about being in a religion where her 'spiritual husband' dated multiple women at once. She said she'd never sleep with someone while in a relationship with someone else (and she hasn't) but said she's gone on vacations with other men while in relationships. She claimed this is omission - not lying - and at that point, her date became appalled.
Christine did great - she shared the story about her past relationship but rolled it seamlessly into conversation. Later at the house, Christine and her date shared a very passionate kiss.
Jane had the toughest time telling Arthur about her past. She said that she was giving her man money that he ended up using to bail his cousin out of jail. She also noted that it ended in a bad breakup. When asked if she was told to inform her date about this, she said no, and she wanted to share it because she wanted to be truthful. Back at the house, the conversation continued and Jane had to admit that she was still sleeping with her ex before coming to the house and he's still on her mind.
Leilani and George still hadn't kissed at this point, and Steve set the pair up on a date to create some passion. The pair finally shared a passionate kiss and both looked very happy.
The girls seemed to worry before going into the group session.
Leilani did the best this week, specifically for how she handled the lie she had to discuss with George. George responded well - he said their discussions built their bond even stronger.
Christine's date didn't seem to buy the fact that the lack of passion was their only reason for their split. Her date wasn't the only one to not believe her - the girls didn't seem convinced either. When Steve asked if Christine's ex felt the same way she did about the marriage ending, she said her ex never gave her a clear answer.
The tables turned quickly to Avonte from Christine when Avonte called BS on Christine. Steve turned to Avonte and said she's so quick to call everyone else out, but she's full of it herself. Her date felt like she was deceptive, and wasn't sure if he would want to continue dating her.
Still, Jane was put in the hot seat for being worse of all. She finally stepped up and told Steve the truth about her ex. She also said she's done with her ex now, but Steve didn't seem to believe it. Arthur was concerned after hearing Jane talk about her ex and questioned what was going on with them. Jane finally admitted she didn't know whether she wanted to be with her ex or not. She eventually broke down in tears. Steve told Jane that they'd start over with a clean slate from then forward. All she had to do was stop the BS and tell the truth. She agreed to do that and went back to her seat.
Next week, the girls will have to confront their exes...and it seems that it will not go smoothly.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
announced today that she's filing for divorce from Two and a Half Men star Ashton Kutcher. The two seem to be splitting amicably (which is notable in Hollywood) but the stories from behind the scenes seem to be more telling than their words to the press.
If you recall, recent rumors of Ashton's infidelity have likely taken a toll on their relationship - probably because the rumors seem to be true. Plus, the fame level (and their ages) have shifted greatly during their six year marriage. Demi started the relationship as the more famous partner, with Ashton's fame still growing. Now, Ashton's in the spotlight and Demi's taking a backseat. That in and of itself has to be hard on Demi.
Demi's status as a cougar, which probably seemed appealing to the young Ashton Kutcher, probably seems more like a hindrance these days. In his 20's, Ashton probably didn't want kids and was more than happy to play the cool stepdad to Demi's kids. Now, at 33, he's probably thinking about babies...and how Demi's not exactly still of age to keep having them.
To be fair, a 6 year marriage in Hollywood is equivalent to about 20 years for us normal people. And the relationship did seem to be great for a while. (It certainly outlasted the dysfunctional 72 day Kim Kardashian / Kris Humphries marriage!) I do hope for the best for Ashton and Demi, even if it means that they aren't together.
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
I have been seeking a tablet at an affordable price. Because of my opposition to the price, I ruled out an iPad. And while I saw lots of other tablets at low prices on the market, they got average reviews and came from no-name brands. So when I saw the Kindle Fire, I was thrilled. The Amazon Kindle Fire is from a trusted brand, and I know that Amazon has great customer service, so I was all in when the Kindle Fire hit the market.
Would I recommend the Amazon Kindle Fire? Absolutely. The software works great, downloads are smooth and fast, and the tablet itself looks great. Plus, the $199 price tag can't be beat. I 100% percent recommend this for everyone.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
I'm not sure how involved you've all been with the Kardashian saga as of late, but the Kardashians are finding themselves in a world of trouble. First, the sisters were accused of copying popular designer bags to create the handbags in their Kardashian Kollection line for Sears. Big name designers have called the girls out on copying their top items, and they are not pleased about it. The Kardashians claim to have designed the bags on their own, and I believe it...but I also think their frame of reference came from the expensive handbags in their own closets, which makes their line comprised of thinly veiled (and less well constructed) copies of designer purses.
Kim Kardashian's also receiving some major public backlash for her marriage to Kris Humphries lasting only 72 days. Not only are Americans in general upset, but vendors that supplied items for the wedding are less than pleased. Vera Wang, who designed Kim's extravagant dresses, feels slighted, and other vendors feel like this could negatively impact their images.
Kris Humphries' family is also upset with the Kardashians, and not only for the divorce, which Kris claims he learned about from the press. If you recall, they thought the whole wedding was over the top and played out like a made for TV movie...which, you know, it was. And Kris was seen wearing his wedding ring after Kim stopped wearing hers, so even if he's doing that for publicity, he's winning.
The Kardashian family seems to be trying to clean up some of the mess right now and trying to distract people towards other Kardashian-based gossip, with mom Kris Jenner making lots of television appearances and announcing that younger daughter Kendall Jenner will be getting some time on TV for her sixteenth birthday. (Hint: Judging from the fact that we'll see Kendall shopping for a car and possibly a belly button piercing, I don't think this will do much to improve the Kardashian's image. Just saying.)
The Kardashians might get even more backlash when their book, Dollhouse, comes out. Sure, they might get some good publicity, but the book may just make Kim, Khloe and Kourtney look even more conceited since the book is clearly about them, and I'm sure part of it talks about how hard it is to be a reality star. Which, you know, it can be, but when you famewhore as hard as the Kardashians do, it's hard to have sympathy.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
I realize that people say things and they're taken out of context, but Meri (Kody Brown's first wife) made a comment about the fact that polygamy wouldn't be her first choice if it wasn't something dictated by her religion. It was sad, especially coming from Meri, because she goes through so much pain because she only had one daughter while her sister wives had many kids. Interestingly, in a past episode, Meri's daughter Mariah was the only teenager who said she'd choose polygamy. I wonder if that has to do with the fact that she wants a big family, possibly due to the fact that she fears that she won't be able to have multiple children if she follows in her mother's path.
Don't get me wrong - I have no problem with polygamy if all participants are willing to be a part of it. It bothers me that people would hurt their happy lives in order to bring in another wife to follow God's will. I believe that people should live moral and ethical lives, but not live in the fear of God or their religion. In Andy and Nicole's case, the polygamist lifestyle seemed to actually be a downfall of their religion, not something that they genuinely want to participate in.
In other random TV family news, Michelle Duggar of 19 Kids and Counting is pregnant with her 20th kid. Oh, my goodness.
Monday, November 7, 2011
One of the women, Michelle Betts, had some particularly tough challenges to face. First, she had to address her mom's favoritism towards her sister Renee, and after that, she had to face her date's mom - a Jewish mother. Her date's mom seemed to be particularly tough to face, especially when she came right out and told Michelle (who is not Jewish) that she wants Jewish grandkids!
Michelle handled this week's challenges with honesty and grace, so I couldn't wait to catch up with her to discuss what happened on this week's episode. Fortunately, she was willing to share, and her thoughts on this week's episode are below.
On this week's episode of Tough Love, Steve Ward asked you and the other women to write letters to your moms. How did you feel after you wrote the letter? Looking back, how do you feel about what you said in the letter? Do you have any regrets?
On this past week's episode Steve Ward asks us to write our mothers letters, after I wrote the letter I felt like an amazing weight had been lifted off of me; it was very freeing. When I wrote the letter I did not know we were going to be reading them on TV, so it's not that I regret saying what I said, it would have just been more fair to my mother to speak to her personally, I just didn't want to hurt her because I do love her with all my heart. She's been a wonderful mother and had no idea I had felt that way; I had never communicated it to her.
Did you tell your family about the letter before the show aired? How did they react?
I did tell my family about the letter before it aired. The funny thing is that my sister felt that I was favored, so she could relate to me. My mother never intended to hurt us, but I did start my attraction to "bad boys" young and I new there was a correlation.
Have things with your family gotten better because your letter and the feelings you addressed on this episode? Did writing the letter enable you to share your feelings with your mom?
Things have gotten much better since I have been back from the show. I called my mother and let her know how I felt, that I was alone all by myself in LA and that sometimes I needed things to be about me, not all the time, but sometimes. A few days later she drove up from Northern California to visit me. It was really nice.
We didn't hear all of the letters being read on the show. Is there anything notable that we didn't see but is worth sharing?
As far as the other letters that weren't aired, I'm unable to talk about that for confidentiality reasons. I feel like the show did very good at portraying the main issues that needed to be addressed regarding mothers.
What was it like meeting your date's mother? We only saw a quick clip of the date - how did the rest of it go? Did you mean what you told her about being willing to convert to a different religion, or is that something you said in the moment?
When my date first showed up with his mother, I was very shocked, nervous, overwhelmed, etc. Although she was drilling me so to speak, I thought that meeting her went well, and that we both liked each other. She is a very nice woman and who would I be if I blamed her for being a bit picky with her only child? She's very lovely. When I said I would convert, I meant it. Honestly, in a perfect world I would love to meet someone Catholic, but things don't always work out that way. I'm now a mature woman and if I met the real deal, meaning someone that I was head over heels in love with and thought I could spend my life with.....at this point I wouldn't let my religion stop me it's not a deal breaker. I would "pull a Charlotte" (fromSex and the City). I didn't just say it in the moment, I meant it.
After addressing major issues in the letter she wrote to her mom, Claudia had to decide between leaving Tough Love to heal herself or staying on the show. Do you think she made the right decision by leaving? Was it difficult to see her go?
When Claudia decided to leave, it was a very hard decision for her. I got close with Claudia right when I met her, our beds were right next to each other. I did not want to see her leave....but I couldn't ask her to stay. I do think it was the best thing for her to do and that she made the right decision. Claudia has become a very good friend of mine; I speak to her often and love her dearly.
Although this episode and week at bootcamp was really hard for me, it REALLY helped me through my process. I'm very grateful for Steve and his mother JoAnne, they really do care about us and want the best for all of us. They are great at what they do. Even though there is only a few weeks left of bootcamp there is still so much more to come. Gotta keep watching to see if I really do kick my addiction to bad boys!!!
Sunday, November 6, 2011
This was obviously emotional for some of the women. Christine teared up immediately because she's partially estranged from her mom. Jane was advised to tell her mom about her DUI. Michelle addressed the fact that her mom has always favored her sister, and it's hurtful to her. Chasity admitted that her mom's actions made her feel broken. Claudia cried as she addressed the fact that her mom did not act as a mother to her, and she believed that no good would come out of writing this letter.
This action seemed to be therapeutic for many of the girls. Michelle, especially, seemed to have a weight lifted off her shoulders after she let out her feelings in the letter. The letter was therapeutic for Claudia as well, but it took a lot for her to write it. She admitted that she knows that her mom was a good person but she has so much built up resentment. In the end, she wrote a long letter and released the pain she'd been holding inside.
As per usual with Steve Ward, this wasn't the end of the challenge. Steve asked the women to read their letters to the group.
Michelle went first. She opened up by telling her mom that she loved her. She then told her mom that her mom's favoritism towards her sister Renee caused her to feel inferior and look for relationships with the wrong men. She elaborated by saying that her prior dating life was her way of crying out for attention.
Chasity addressed the fact that she and her mom hide things from each other. She questioned how her mom could judge her when she lived her whole life as a lie (only marrying Chasity's father became pregnant). Chasity also admitted that she wants to be a Playboy Bunny but was afraid to tell her mom. She said that the secrets kept within her family have led her to be secretive in her relationships with men.
Christine said that her mom's angry words have scarred her. She feels that she failed at keeping it all together, which her mom wanted. She said she wants to go back to being best friends with her mom.
Leilani admitted that she did what she did for her parents' approval. Jane discussed her shame about her DUI.
Claudia talked about how she questions if her mother truly loves her. She noted that she needed her mom and didn't receive what she needed, but she forgives her mom. Steve Ward and his mom Joanne Ward talked about Claudia after she read her letter and determined that she may need some self healing before she's set up with a match.
The next segment on Tough Love was called "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner?" During this segment, the girls met up with their dates - and a surprise addition - either the woman's mom or her date's mom.
Michelle was going on her second date with Jonathan and she was feeling good...until she realized that Jonathan's mom was present as well. Jonathan's mom came right out with the tough stuff - she immediately questioned whether or not Michelle was Jewish. (And Jewish mothers can be tough, trust me!) Jonathan's mom came out immediately with the tough stuff - she asked if Michelle would raise her kids Jewish. Michelle completely rocked this. She said she's fascinated by Judaism and would consider converting. (This is like gold to a Jewish mother. Go Michelle!)
Jane and Arthur were next. Jane noted that she was concerned about Arthur's mom being overbearing, but they seemed to get along. Leilani and George followed. Leilani immediately felt insecure about her appearance (short dress and makeup). Leilani was honest about her modeling, but George's mom seemed disapproving. While Leilani is successful, she didn't articulate that well to George's mom.
The tables were turned for Brigette and Anthony. For their date, Brigette's mom was the addition to the date. During this, Brigette noted that her mom plans Brigette's wedding every time she meets a date, which explains
Chasity met Al's mom. Al's mom asked what Chasity wore as a go-go dancer, which seemed to be a test. Chasity completely overshared and gave way too many details about her outfit. She also talked about how her mom only married due to pregnancy and that she's not convinced that she needs to get married.
The group session came next.
Jane was told that she did the best this week, due in part to the fact that she kept her mom's feelings in mind. She also did well meeting her date's mom.
Leilani was asked what she thought of George's mom, and she felt that she was interrogated. We then saw a clip of George's mom talking about Leilani - she thought she was an overconfident, superficial, wannabe model. Leilani seemed devastated.
Chasity was put on the hot seat for what she said to Al's mom, specifically about her dancing outfits and lack of desire to get married. Al's mom was less than thrilled. Chasity was challenged by Steve to talk to her mom about her goal to be in Playboy. He handed her a phone and told her to call. To her credit, she did. And her mom reacted well. She said that she'd love her no matter what. Chasity looked like a huge weight had been lifted off of her shoulders.
Claudia was then asked if she wanted to stay on or leave Tough Love. She said that although she went on the show to find a man, but instead found herself. Because of that, she decided to leave the show. When she told the women this, she spoke with clarity and peace in a way that we've never before heard from her. It was really wonderful for her.
That's it for this week's episode, but stay tuned...we'll have an interview with Tough Love star Michelle Betts coming up soon!
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