Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Three Wives, One Husband: A Refreshing - And Real - Look at Polygamy

Three Wives, One Husband is a documentary-style mini series on TLC. While it's similar to TLC's other polygamy shows, I liked its documentary style, which is different than TLC's typically overly dramatic style. (This wasn't originally filmed for TLC, which explains that.) But anyway, what I liked about this show is how real it is. It doesn't paint a rosy, picture perfect view of polygamy; it shows a tough lifestyle that isn't exactly easy.

First and foremost, the show portrays people who are sometimes happy, but struggle with their lifestyle. Marina, the third wife of Abel Morrison, clearly struggles with jealousy, which takes a huge toll on her husband and sister wives.

A fascinating family on the show was Christian and Sasha, a currently monogamous couple who are seeking a sister wife. They have one son, but Sasha had multiple miscarriages, and situations like this could limit the number of kids they can have. This seems to play a big role in why she's willing to accept a sister wife. That being said, she clearly struggles with the idea, and turns to her religion to justify why should do something she doesn't seem to want to do. When she talked to some of the polygamist families about her concerns, they too backed their decision and justification with religion: their human selves want to be competitive, but their religious selves know not to, so they try to follow that. So, accept a sister wife, don't be jealous, and love her for who she is. And that's great, in theory, but real life is not that simple.

Also interesting was the case of Anazella and Melinda, widows of Jim Morrison. Jim's dying wish was for his wives to marry his brother, Abel, so they'd be taken care of. And according to his wives, if Abel had kids with any of them, they'd be the same as Jim's kids because Jim and Abel share DNA. While I can understand and respect polygamy, this is a bit much for me - and Jim's wives seemed to agree, as they decided not to pursue this option. Seriously though, that's a bit much, isn't it? Yeah, it would keep the kids together but can you really just stick two families together and expect it to work?

Do I think the women that appear on Three Wives, One Husband are brainwashed or oppressed? No. I think they are free-thinking and free to leave their lifestyle at any time. I think like anything else, their belief system dictates that they do things that they may not otherwise do, but that's their choice. Are there terrible polygamist communities out there? Absolutely. But I don't think this is one of them.

What do you think of the show and the families?

Monday, February 26, 2018

Seeking Sister Wife: A Lot Has Changed Since Episode One!

I caught up on Seeking Sister Wife, and wow, a lot has changed since episode one.

First and foremost, I went from being a fan of the Snowdens to not being so sure. Did you know Ashley and Dimitri aren't actually married so all wives can have equal footing? And how about Dimitri sleeping with Joselyn on the first date? It's looking very interesting. That being said, does anyone else think maybe things aren't what they seem?

First of all, rumors are flying that Ashley and Dimitri are looking for a lover for both of them, not just Dimitri - which is totally fine - but not traditional polygamy. Second, did you know Dimitri's had legal trouble? He swindled money from a charter school.

Secondly, I'm not 100% convinced that Dimitri and Joselyn did sleep together. I feel as if this could have been manufactured for TV, the same way the Melina storyline with the Alldredges feels staged. (Which, by the way, I am loving the Alldredges - either they put on a great show or they're just awesome people who make an amazing family.)

As far as the Briney family, people seem to be pretty divided on which wife they like - or dislike - most. I want to give everyone an equal chance, but April's not coming off so great on camera. I feel like April's forgotten when it's like to have a newborn - she criticizes Angela for taking too much time with her baby son. Well, Angela admitted she does try to escape because of the tension, but babies take a lot of work! And the way April derailed Auralee's heartfelt moment on the camping trip didn't come off looking great. I do think April is being manipulative, and I wonder if this show has shown her how her actions affect others.

I feel for Melina, and I look forward to seeing where her storyline goes. I'm excited for more episodes!

Monday, January 29, 2018

Seeking Sister Wife: Thoughts So Far and the Person Who Drives Me Nuts!

I am truly enjoying Seeking Sister Wife so far. While it's definitely scripted in some ways (or at least predetermined), parts seem genuine, like the tension in the Briney household. And that's my favorite part, even though it's awful.

What I mean is this: April is wife number one. And unless she's an amazing on screen actress (she's an actress in the household with her manipulative behavior), that woman will not let her sister wives forget that she was there first, she's number one and nobody is coming before her.

Take this week for example. I believe Wife #2, Auralee (who I think is awesome) truly did need mattresses for her kids and April tried to find a way to get her kids new ones instead. Then she tried to convince Auralee that she was making it up, and April was trying to help. Third wife Angela backed up Auralee's story. I think Auralee has seen this behavior from April for years but kept quiet until the show because she could finally say something and people would believe her. I'm on team Auralee!

That being said, I don't want this to be completely negative because it could do be for the cameras. And I also would hate to think I'm misjudging April, and she's reading posts like these and getting upset. Hopefully we see her behavior turn around during the show and we can join Team April as well.

Oh yeah, I do like how all three Briney wives have A names, but the husband's shiny shirts are bugging me out a bit.

As far as the other two families, I like everybody so far. I think they have things worked out pretty fairly, and if they're happy, this is awesome for them. Like I always say, live your life morally and ethically, and you deserve to do what makes you happy.

Sunday, October 1, 2017

90's House on MTV: Nope. Just Nope.

Having fond memories of the 90s, I thought the show 90s House on MTV might be a fun watch. It wasn't.

Usually I try to find some redeeming qualities about a show, but this show didn't fill me with nostalgia, it filled me with being annoyed. Travana's over the top personality was too much to handle, the pettiness was extreme, one guy was 29 so he pretty much grew up in the 90s, and the tears...oh, the tears.

Skip this one. Sorry, MTV.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

TLC’s Behind Closed Doors: The American Family: A Review of Episode One

TLC Go lets us watch Behind Closed Doors: The American Family before it appears on television. I watched episode one and enjoyed it. The premise is that families are filmed 24 hours a day by wall mounted cameras, rather than an in-home camera crew.

Mandy and Jeff host a podcast about marriage, but their own marriage is struggling. After adopting a child, the parents of four decided Mandy would be a stay at home mom. That's been tougher than she imagined, causing her to struggle. Mandy's too tired for sex, causing Jeff to be quite unhappy. This show seems like a way for the pair to get more views for their webcast, which I'm sure it will.

Andy cheated on wife Deena, and the pair hasn't recovered from the infidelity. This incident caused Deena to shut down, creating a rift between her and her kids, as well as leaving her marriage in shambles.

Tam and Paul have a tumultuous relationship. They are both stubborn and refuse to give in to the other. Tam got super insecure when Paul was texting with an ex, due in part to her childhood insecurities - she was born with a penis, but as she matured, she grew breasts and became more female, I believe called XXY syndrome.

Is this show worth watching? Yeah, it's an interesting take on reality TV. I think it's got novelty value, because with cameras on 24/7 and without a camera person around, it's easier for the couples to show who they really are, and for TLC to get enough crazy footage to keep us tuned in.


Sunday, September 3, 2017

90 Day Fiance Reunion, Part 2 - Some Thoughts

90 Day Fiance's reunion last week was explosive, and week two is only getting better. Or worse. Same thing, in this case.

First, Paola and Russ fought because she wanted Russ to have her back, but he can't get over the whole lingerie issue. With all due respect, Russ, please get over it. You married a woman who is very in touch with her desire to model and her sexuality; what did you expect? Later, Russ defended Pao because he's smart and figured out what he needs to do.

Danielle addressed that she has a new boyfriend, but doesn't want to talk about him because he doesn't want to be in the spotlight. To me, it sounds like he either wants his privacy (normal) or doesn't want anyone to know he's dating her. Mohamed claimed that Danielle never loved him, which sounds like he's trying to convince himself. Danielle cried and ran offstage, and Mohamed said that's how she reacts every time something doesn't go her way. He then claimed Danielle isn't independent, and that she's faking her reactions for sympathy.

Okay, let's be real - Danielle loved Mohamed, at least to the capacity that she can. Mohamed played the victim here - he said he tried to make it work, but Danielle gave him no reason. He claims that he tried to pick up the pieces but things were too broken. The host asked Danielle if she thinks she can get too attached, and she said yes, which is obvious. She has the book of social media conversations that she plans to send to immigration, after all.

Mohamed said he plans to disappear after this reunion to fix his life. Danielle said that makes her angry because he's not taking responsibility for himself. He wants to be rid of her, she still wants an apology, and although she's not saying it, she wants him back.

Loren was on an angry rampage. She asked Jorge what Anfisa loved about him, aside from his money. She said she can't see more to Anfisa than a bunch of Botox. Loren was also mad at Danielle and Mohamed because both couples make the process look like a joke. She was upset that she and Alexei got denied twice, but these two couples were approved easily. Paola joined in to support Loren, as they are friends, and have probably discussed Mohamed and Anfisa's relationships with their spouses at length.

It was noted that Anfisa never cared for Jorge's family, yet she got upset when Jorge didn't defend her, even though she didn't respect him. Jorge was asked why it took almost a year for him to see his family. He said it's because of Anfisa's insecurity. She claimed that he was talking behind her back, but really, he's allowed to have his own conversations! Should he talk badly about her? Well, she wasn't giving her any reason not to! Jorge was asked if he could have done better at introducing Anfisa, and he said yes, but Anfisa never showed interest. What it seems to be is that Anfisa didn't feel welcome, so she felt like Jorge's family was against her. That actually makes sense - I'll give Anfisa some credit here. Plus, when Jorge's sister talked badly about Anfisa to her face, Jorge did not defend her. He says it was because he didn't want to disrespect his sister. And really, her comments weren't the nicest, so Jorge could have at least said they were inappopriate.

Chantel was asked why her family thought that chicken feet were a voodoo tradition when Pedro's family made them. Chantel said that nobody in the family ate the chicken feet, although Pedro did eat some and didn't see a problem with them. Then, we found out that Pedro's mom is a lawyer. A lawyer! A lawyer!!! So why is Pedro sending her money if she has the ability to make a good income?

We flipped to a scene where Anfisa said he was her first. Loren and Paola laughed because they didn't believe it. Jorge said, "I guess I believed her". Jorge said he didn't even know Anfisa was dating guys before she came to America.

The money discussion came up, and Jorge said he never claimed to be a millionaire, but he did flash money in her face and she responded. Jorge said he felt like he was treated like a dog when he couldn't keep up with Anfisa's financial needs. Jorge was asked why he didn't disappear once Anfisa said she's all about the money. She defended himself saying that all women want nice things. Jorge said he was going through a lot when he met Anfisa, and he just wanted someone to love. Jorge wants people to understand what he went through; he gave Anfisa trust and she backstabbed him. But what actually happened? THE SHOW ENDED!!! We won't find out until next week!!! NOOO!!!

Note: Paola mentioned a gold digger academy in Russia, and asked if Anfisa went. While the group laughed at this, this article does show that it is real.

Friday, September 1, 2017

Off Topic: Why I'm Moving Away From Fast Fashion, And Where I Shop Now

When I was in college and afterwards, I loved shopping at Old Navy and similar places because I could run in and walk out with some affordable, cute clothes. I would never say I was particularly trendy, but I do have a distinct style, and H&M, Forever 21 and other stores could cater to that. Now that I've gotten older (not to say I'm a dinosaur or anything, thank you very much), my focus is on longer lasting, high quality clothing...and bonus points if it's good for the world.

Seriously, though, fast fashion can create a lot of clothing waste because the products aren't necessarily high quality, causing lots of textiles to go to waste. I'd rather buy something that will last and I can truly enjoy over the long term, rather than something that will go out of style or bore me in a month or two. Below are three brands that I'm really into right now.

Pact Organic packaging
Pact Organic

My latest find is Pact Organic, which creates amazing basics that are reasonably priced. Plus, my discount code will give you 20% off. The clothes are fair trade certified, and have no toxic dyes or pesticides. This is a great place for leggings, t-shirts, underwear and socks. Everything so soft and lovely to wear. This site features clothes for men, women and kids.

Bonus points for amazing customer service. I received the wrong leggings, and a five minute call to customer service had a correct pair on its way to me. No hassle on my part whatsoever, which I truly appreciated. Plus, the person I spoke to was very cool and understanding.

I got a 50% off discount code from Facebook, so I bought a bunch of stuff, and I'm definitely going to return for more.

Effie's Heart

When it comes to high quality women's wear, I'm now obsessed with Effie's Heart: effiesheart.com.

This brand does cost a fair amount, but the fabrics are amazing and high quality. The patterns are fun and creative, and the clothes are flattering. Everything I tried on fit me perfectly. And bonus points for modesty - I like a dress that shows off my curves, but not one that makes me worry about if my butt is going to make a public appearance. I like the retro-yet-modern vibe of the clothes. If you're looking to make an understated statement (if there is such a thing) this brand is perfect for you.

I've included a photo from the company's website of the Napoli dress, one of my favorites. This dress, aside from being beautiful and available in a variety of patterns, is machine washable. This is amazing for people like me, who are way too lazy to go to the dry cleaner. It also has pockets, which is a big seller for people. For me, I like that the pockets don't add bulk around the hips, which is often a problem.

A key benefit of this brand is their size range - they don't limit fashion to those who are a size two. These clothes are made for - and look great on - a range of sizes.

ThirdLove

This bra and underwear company's goal is to give women undergarments that fit properly. Before you choose a bra, you go through a series of questions designed to find a bra that fits you just right. You tell the site what you're wearing now, what your issues are, and some info about your shape, and it pops out your anticipated size. Not convinced? You can try on a bra before you buy it. How cool is that? It's a great way to get your fit right without going to a retail store.

While the prices of ThirdLove's products aren't low, they're reasonable. And when you buy more bras, the prices get lower. Plus, the quality is great - my friend described wearing a ThirdLove bra like not wearing a bra at all.

Want to buy one? This referral should give you $15 off your first purchase.